In some circumstances, dating someone who is also in recovery might prove to be a challenge. It could be a challenge if:
- He or she is trying to “work your program” for you.
It can be difficult to date someone who’s also in recovery, because they might feel like they know what’s best for you based on their own personal experiences. If you date someone in addiction recovery, you might hear things like, “You need to get to a meeting,” or, “Have you prayed or meditated today,” if you get into an argument. “You’re being a jerk… go call your sponsor!” If you do date someone in recovery, always remember to stay in your own lane and do your own work!
- Your partner experiences a relapse. If your partner is sober and experiences a relapse into alcoholism or drug addiction, it might be difficult to support them – or to stay sober yourself. Misery loves company and it is likely that they’ll attempt to drag you back out too. Because of this, making sure that your own program is solid and stable is of utmost importance.